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Conscious Luck with Gay Hendricks

Season 1, Episode 26

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How to Become a Lucky Person

Do you consider yourself lucky?  

I have a friend who is notoriously lucky. We even call him “Lucky Nicky.” 

Example: In our pre-ridesharing days in San Francisco, Roy and I would go to meet Nick for dinner in an impossible-to-park-in part of town. Roy and I would circle a couple of times then either cave in and use valet, or park far away then walk for a few cold, wet blocks. (Sadly for Roy, this contributed to me phasing high heels out of my life.)

Lucky Nicky on the other hand would drive right to the front of the restaurant and BOOM! Parked right in “his spot”. Somehow, “his spot” was always there, right when he drove up. No matter where we went.

Now explain that to me!!!

Before I go on, keep this in mind: I’m not as woo-woo as I may sometimes (often?) seem. I believe in love and creativity, but I’m a trained social scientist, a data nerd who spent 12 years steeped in the skeptical culture of academia. I get probability. I’m deeply aware of how riddled our perceptions are, and our long list of cognitive biases.

So I had a VERY hard time believing in “luck.”

But it turns out, you can actually LEARN to become lucky. The research backs this up! If I hadn’t heard this from one of my heroes I don’t think I would have believed this.

That hero is Gay Hendricks – a Stanford Ph.D., and mega-expert in psychology, consciousness, and relationships. He wrote best-sellers like The Big Leap and Joy of Genius – and his new book is Conscious Luck.

Yes. You can choose to be lucky. It’s a conscious decision. Conscious change begins with commitment, a conscious commitment that brings into mind what you want most, including being lucky. 

How to Be Lucky 

Gay Hendricks recommends creating luck-worthy goals. Luck-worthy goals are a visionary tool where you create goals that you feel you could accomplish if you were lucky. These goals ignite your passion and inspire you to move forward. 

In his book, Gay talks about how you can create a commitment to being lucky. All conscious change begins with a new commitment. Conscious leadership requires a conscious commitment. 

You can commit to being lucky. Choose to be lucky. Know yourself as lucky. Refuse to be unlucky. Because you are the creator of your life. 

And if you feel you don’t “deserve” to be lucky…

Love the part of yourself that doesn’t feel worthy. 

Love the part of yourself that is fearful or doubting. 

You’re a whole human with real, tough, beautiful human emotions. 

You do deserve to be lucky. And you have the power to be lucky. 

Make a conscious choice to be lucky and welcome good things into your life. When you choose to facilitate luck and opportunity into your life, you will see the magic that can emerge from shifting your mindset.


About this episode:

Explore how important it is for leaders to have an openness to learning and how 10-second miracle conversations can change leadership. This powerful conversation about conscious leadership reveals how making conscious commitments can help you create the life of your dreams.

Gay Hendricks has been a leader in the fields of relationship and body-mind transformation for more than 45 years and has written more than 40 books, including bestsellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap.

He joins us on this week’s show to give exclusive insights on his brand new book, Conscious Luck, to share secrets to creating your own luck, and to expand on his Zone of Genius research by introducing a whole new layer to his groundbreaking discovery, the Genius Spiral.

9:18 – Gay explains what the ULP or Upper Limit Problem is.

11:29 – How fear plays into the upper limit problem process within all of us.

16:10 – Gay explains you have two ways of looking at human beings. We are human animals rather than failed angels. 

19:44 – We have these two cosmic pulls in us. One is to expand and one is to contract. Once we get into harmony with that, things can move very well but if we are resisting every move of that process our whole systems are working against each other.

22:59 – In Gay’s seminars for business leaders, he teaches openness to learning. He spent many consulting days with Michael Dell. At the very top of companies, you see people who are so open to learning that they walk down the halls and soak up learning. Gay has never seen a person digest change as quickly.

25:02 – Gay speaks about the importance of the 10-second sweaty conversation. The value is in the healing that comes from them. These can actually be 10-second miracle conversations because of the relief and healing that comes from letting go of the drama and avoidance. 

26:03 – Gay talks about where in the body certain emotions are held and how they are released from bottom to top.

30:18 – We are a parfait of feeling. Anger on top. Sadness in the middle. And fear at the bottom of everything. Gay speaks about how shame is a mixture of fear, sadness, and anger but it shows up lower in the body which he addresses in his new book Conscious Luck.

32:16 – The big finding exposed in Gay’s new book Conscious Luck is you can consciously change your luck. 

34:59 – Gay shares an exclusive story about Gay and his own experience with creating luck in a conscious way. It is about making a decision to be lucky and how that changed his life.

38:48 – All conscious change begins with a new conscious commitment. There are 8 different tools you can use to make yourself luckier. One is to create luck-worthy goals. 

41:46 – Gay talks about how it is important to take a moment and love that part of you that doesn’t feel like you deserve it. Love the part of you that doesn’t feel worthy. The feeling of unworthiness is the number one fear we have to get out of ourselves.

43:28 – Gay explains the Genius Spiral and how the Zone of Genius is actually an ongoing and growing spiral.

More About…

Gay Hendricks: 

Gay Hendricks has been a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and body-mind transformation for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. from Stanford in 1974, Gay served as Professor of Counseling Psychology at the University of Colorado for 21 years. He has written more than 40 books, including bestsellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap, Conscious Loving and Conscious Loving Ever After, (the last two co-authored with his co-author and mate for more than 35 years, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks).

He is also a mystery novelist, with a series of five books featuring the Tibetan-Buddhist private detective, Tenzing Norbu, as well as a new mystery series featuring a Victorian-era London detective, Sir Errol Hyde.

His last book, The Joy of Genius, shows how to eliminate negative thinking and bring forth true creativity.

Gay has appeared on more than 500 radio and television shows, including Oprah, CNN, CNBC, 48 HOURS and others.

How to Live in Your Zone of Genius

How to Succeed without Suffering

How to Restore Yourself Like a Rockstar

Skills for Creating Anything You Want- Empowerment Triangle 

Hendricks Institute

Foundation for Conscious Living 

Conscious Luck book on Amazon

The Big Leap book on Amazon

Joy of Genius book on Amazon

Discover your Zone of Genius

An Introduction to Your Zone of Genius

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