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What’s Your Type? – Improving Relationships with Your Enneagram Personality Type with Erin Rocchio

Season 1, Episode 47

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Discover the Enneagram and How to Use it to Help Your Personal Growth

The Enneagram is unlike any other personality tool you may have taken. 

It is thousands of years old and uniquely suited to support lifelong, deep development. It has made a massive difference in my life and can impact the way you interact with yourself and others. 

What if you could truly understand your personality type and could unlock a whole new level of deep personal development, heightened communication, and fulfilling interpersonal relationships?

What is an Enneagram? 

The Enneagram is a framework to help you understand your unconscious drives, your hard wiring. The Enneagram brings what is unconscious to consciousness. If you’re not aware of your drives or behaviors they’re going to be there anyway. Enneagram number typing brings you to awareness. 

The KEY element of Enneagram is understanding there are nine different perspectives on life and all are equally valid. 

This makes it such a great tool for working with executive teams. It’s easy to show up at work thinking your way is the right way, and your job is to either deal with other people who are doing it wrong and thinking it wrong or convince them of the opposite. 

A lot of conflict stems from different Enneagram numbers viewing situations through a different perspective, without recognizing each perspective is valid. 

There’s value in not only learning about your own type but the types of those you work with, live with, love, or raise.  Not because you want to stereotype them, but because then you can have some understanding of this is what they’re after, and I only have a slice of the reality here through my own number’s viewpoint. 

The goal is not to change you or your number. There is no wrong way to be. You are Allowed to be your type. 

This framework presents to you your fundamental needs, thoughts, and feelings. The goal is to shine a light on all of this, including the deeper and raw aspects of yourself. 

You don’t need to reject parts of yourself. The more you love the parts of yourself you may not care for, the more you can bring wholeness into your life. 

How much pain is created by rejecting fundamental aspects of who you are? 

You don’t need to do that anymore. You may not like that as an Enneagram type 3 you care what other people think of you, you may wish you don’t, but if you accept that you do, you can start to appreciate it and get curious about what you can do with it. 

Get creative about how this aspect of yourself could be of service to yourself and other people. 

When you reject, repress or deny parts of yourself, you push parts of yourself into your shadow. And when you push your hard wiring into your shadow, meaning not trying to govern it anymore, you don’t even see it anymore. Then that part of you starts operating non-consciously and when it starts to come out in unintentional ways that are not of service to you. 

This is when you want to rip your hair out and ask “Why am I reacting this way? This is not helping the situation at all.” 

You repressed a part of yourself into shadow. Another thing that happens with shadow is that you begin to see it in other people and get upset with them about it without recognizing that you’re looking at a mirror of yourself and your behaviors. 

When you are empowered, embracing who you are, how you are, what your actual needs are, and you’re recognizing you can work with who you are to create what you want, then you are out of Drama

You’re Above the Line, and you have access to your Zone of Genius, not somebody else’s Zone of Genius

You stop trying to show up and look like a one or a seven or a number that you’re not and you’re able to embrace that. 

It’s so helpful to know your Enneagram type– because it helps you recognize even faster whether you are Above or Below the Line. 

The 9 Enneagram Types

  1. The Reformer
  2. The Helper
  3. The Achiever
  4. The Individualist
  5. The Investigator 
  6. The Loyalist
  7. The Enthusiast
  8. The Challenger
  9. The Peacemaker 


About this episode:

Unlock a whole new level of deep personal development. Enhance your communication and find an even greater level of fulfillment in your interpersonal relationships. How?

Learn about an ancient personality system and how your personality type influences your mindset and behavior. In this episode, the remarkable Erin Rocchio joins Allowed. Erin is an executive coach, a partner in Evolution, and she’s certified in a revolutionary personality tool that you’ve heard mentioned on this show many times – the Enneagram.

Learning about the Enneagram personality types can make a massive difference in your life and the way you interact with yourself and others. The Enneagram model is uniquely suited to support lifelong transformation and development. 

You can take it down a spiritual path, you can take it down a path as a parent, you can take it into your personal relationships, and you can take it into your work and your role as a leader. Throughout this episode learn how you can apply the wisdom of the Enneagram to your own life and leadership. 

More About…

Erin Rocchio:

For the last decade, Erin has worked with executives across industries to find the sweet spot between business results and personal meaning. She designs and delivers transformational leader, team, and organization development in line with business strategy. Erin’s work focuses on Executive Coaching and Organization Development specifically for: Leadership Acceleration, Burnout Relief/Prevention, Team and Culture Development. Erin also speaks about innovations in emotional intelligence, leadership, positive psychology, and sustainable performance in the workplace.

Erin’s clients are curious, open, emotionally intelligent leaders up to big things. She works with C-level executives at billion-dollar companies and founders of proven start-ups, helping them cultivate sustainable, high-performing teams based on metrics that drive engagement and results. 

Erin’s clients  include: Chevron, Children’s Hospital Los Angeles, DaVita, New Capital Partners, Seattle Children’s Hospital, Surgical Care Affiliates, Yahoo, Medtronic, Community Psychiatry, City of Hope, and Worldwide Express. 

Erin earned a Bachelor of Science in Education and Social Policy from Northwestern University, and a Master of Science in Positive Organization Development and Change (MPOD) from Case Western Reserve University’s Weatherhead School of Management. While at Northwestern, Erin was an elite student-athlete, helping to build its Women’s Softball program to national distinction.

A member of the Forbes Coaches Council, Erin is a certified Integral Coach with Integral Coaching Canada and a member of the Enneagram in Business Network. She holds certifications in Advanced Coaching with the Enneagram, a robust personality typing system (via Enneagram in Business) and Developing Leadership with Emotional Intelligence (via CWRU). Erin is also a member of the Organizational Development Network and International Positive Psychology Association. Erin is a graduate of Landmark Education’s Team, Management and Leadership Program, and is an avid fan (and practitioner) of mindfulness meditation. 

Erin enjoys her free time watching her two young daughters discover the wonders of life around them. Together with her husband, they explore their beloved San Diego community, nature walks, art museums and more. Erin also has a soft spot for talking global politics and poetry. More than ever, she is an advocate for the development of young women as leaders in their communities.

3:14 – Erin Rocchio shares about her career and her experience with the Enneagram.

5:44 – What is The Enneagram?

13:22 – Erin provides some examples of the core aspects of The Enneagram.

22:46 – Erin runs through all the Enneagram types and their basic desire or drive.

28:20 – Erin explains how knowing your type is the most important step and a vital first step. Truly understanding your type allows you to move forward in deep personal, professional, and relational development.

33:22 – How can you use your Enneagram type to grow?

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