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Whole Body Yes – How to Create Clear Agreements that You Can Actually Keep

Season 1, Episode 39

Whole body yes caneel joyce
caneel executive coach

I'm a social scientist who helps people break out of the invisible traps and make whole-life changes easily and naturally.

The Most Useful Concept I Ever Learned

I used to be a yes person.  

Dinner party – YES!

Volunteer at kids school – YES!

Do me a favor – YES!

Take on this project at work – YES!

Collaborate with an awesome thought leader – YES!

Join this club – YES!

Then I found myself over-scheduled with too many things going at once.  I found my energy drained and I was resistant to actually doing the thing I said yes to. 

I was having a hard time staying in integrity and keeping my agreements.

BOOM!  Life-changing moment for me.

I learned the most useful concept. An easy life hack to free up your energy and live in your zone of genius

Enter the Whole Body Yes Concept

Let’s back up a second.  

In order to understand the Whole Body Yes concept, it’s helpful to have an understanding of being in integrity by keeping your agreements

An agreement is something you chose to commit yourself to.  You are agreeing to do something by a certain time.  Agreements can be made with yourself or others. 

When you fail to follow through on an agreement whether by not doing it or not doing it on time you fall out of integrity.  You are not doing what you said you would do.

Why does it matter? 

Keeping your agreements clear or renegotiating agreements if you can’t keep them will help prevent feelings of shame, blame, guilt, resentment and regret. 

In steps the concept of Whole Body Yes.

If you only say Yes when you have a Whole Body Yes you are much more likely to keep your agreements and stay in integrity.  This is a stepping stone toward your purpose and living in your zone of genius. 

What is a Whole Body Yes? 

A Whole Body Yes is when your entire being says yes to doing the thing.

Your head says yes.  

      • There is logic to it
      • It makes sense 
      • You can see the good reasons behind it
      • There is rationale for why it’s important

Your heart says yes.

      • Your emotions say yes
      • Your love says yes
      • There is no lingering I don’t want to

Your gut says yes.

      • Your instinct says yes
      • Your yes feels really grounded
      • You will feel this all through your body – drop into yourself and feel what your instinct is telling you

Having a yes to all of the above signals a Whole Body Yes but I like to add one more element.

Your spirit says yes.

      • You may feel a calling to say yes
      • You feel it igniting your sense of purpose to say yes
      • It may feel like God is asking you to do this thing
      • It may feel like love is asking you 

Often if your spirit says Yes it may override the head, heart, and gut.  If you feel called by your spirit your body may react with fear and resistance. Yet when I feel called, I go.  You can expect this to happen a lot of the time. 

Having a whole body yes doesn’t mean you won’t have fear or sadness.  By following your whole body yes, you are freeing up energy and allowing life to flow through you.  

You will find it much easier to keep agreements and stay in integrity when you are only saying yes to things you are really committed to. 

Saying yes too much when you aren’t committing is a big reason why burnout happens.  

You have little integrity breaches all over your life. 

      • With yourself
      • Your body
      • Your self-care
      • Your family
      • Your marriage
      • Your belongings – your house is a mess

All these little breaches add up.  

Start by saying yes only when you have a Whole Body Yes and you will find you free up a lot of energy and a lot of your life.  

Slow down and listen to your body – feel your feelings, your sensations, and your internal wisdom. It will steer you in the right direction. 


About this episode:

Have you ever said yes to something when you had a bad gut feeling?

How did that go?

The number one reason you end up breaking agreements is because you never really agreed with it to begin with.

You didn’t have a whole body yes.

Whole body yes is a super easy hack to clean up your life, free up your energy, and allow life to flow through you.

You are allowed to say “No” and only say yes to things when you have a whole body yes.

The whole body yes is a stepping stone toward your purpose, toward living in your genius.

What does it mean to have a whole body yes? How do you know if you have one? Why is it important?

And how can you find one when you really want to make a change and you just can’t seem to find that whole body yes?

Listen to the episode to learn about how you can access and begin using the whole body yes in your daily agreements.

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