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Season 1, Episode 69

Brittany Allyn on the Burden of Beauty, plus Dating & Anti-Aging

About this episode:

Join this powerful conversation on beauty as a form of social currency, the future of dating app technology, the paradoxical association between intelligence and appearance, and the shame around discussing beauty. Throughout the episode, you will learn how shifting your mindset about beauty can empower you to break free from fear-based stories and challenge your own subconscious associations of youth and beauty.  

Regardless of your gender identity, this episode breaks through the noise and helps identify your own thought patterns, and sheds light on how society has been shaping your own self-esteem. Putting aside generational differences, and stigma surrounding the polarizing topic of beauty as it relates to gender equality, Caneel and Brittany boldly address their own insecurities and how their experience with beauty and aging has transformed over time.



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Brittany Allyn, founder, owner and creator of Thirty Waves.

Brittany Allyn is the founder, owner, and creative force behind the successful Thirty Waves website. Through her Thirty Waves podcast, and her successful social media presence, Brittany has become a notable voice advocating for women’s empowerment, empathy in dating, and honesty about the benefits and pitfalls of aging. 

As of 2021, Brittany founded the new, exciting dating software startup, SCOOPS. SCOOPS is a revolutionary compatibility tool that links a heavily researched questionnaire to dating apps in order to optimize user success. SCOOPS envisions a new level of transparency in the dating app industry through romantic compatibility-focused AI software that empowers users to communicate honestly about their dating goals and desires. 

Based in New York City, with extensive experience in the technology, dating app, marketing, and matchmaking industries, Brittany Allyn has made a name for herself as the “modern Carrie Bradshaw,” imparting lessons she’s learned about dating, aging, and beauty with a loyal online audience. 


03:08 Meet Brittany Allyn, founder of Thirty Waves and SCOOPS

07:08 Caneel and Brittany discuss the pressures around aging and fertility 

15:06 Discussing Brittany’s startup SCOOPS 

21:36 Caneel shares her experience with disordered eating and beauty standards in LA

23:44 Discussion about beauty as a form of forward-facing currency 

25:15 Brittany and Caneel talk about how women are afraid to call themselves beautiful 

35:57 The importance of dismantling associations between youth and beauty 

37:54 The paradoxical association between beauty and intelligence

38:40 Caneel reveals that we often perpetuate stories we are told and internalize

41:04 Caneel discusses the existence of “pretty privilege” 

48:04 Discussing performative beauty 

54:32 Caneel asserts everyone has a choice whether to bond over shame or to overcome our stories

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